The Sexual Education Gospel According to Me

I spend a lot of time thinking, talking, and working with people about sex and sexuality. There are other people who do this work as well and the internet has many different voices. Lately, I feel a need to share more about my approach or philosophy so people can decide for themselves - Why should you listen to me? I've written my Sexual Education Manifesto. So, why should you listen to me? Because I started out like a lot of you. I only got...

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Realizing Worth as a Teen: Living, Learning, and Leaving

When you were young, did you have a defining moment that helped you realize your worth? What about a moment where you realized you didn't have to tolerate someone treating you poorly? If not when you were young, how old were you? I've meant to write about a situation that happened to my daughter in middle school that has shaped how she sees her value. It's a situation that probably happens daily to kids and having a support system seems to...

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A Proper Response When Someone Asks You To Dance In Middle School

How many parents talk to their kids about how to ask someone to dance? What about a discussion about how to reply when they do get asked? Parents are not given an instruction manual when a baby is born, and that sucks sometimes. Once a kid reaches puberty, I think this topic needs discussion. Spring is here where we live, and the middle school spring dances happened. I helped to chaperone the 7th-grade dance, and I felt like an anthropologist watching a...

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Teens Developing Communication Skills and The Slut Protocols

Some really valuable tools exist to help adults develop excellent, clear communication skills to express their needs and to set clear boundaries to protect themselves. But when you're still dealing with teenagers, these tools can be slightly modified. I put training wheels on The Slut Protocols for my daughter. My oldest daughter is 14 years old, and she's been hanging out with her core group of friends, as teens are known to do. These are friends who have been mostly hanging out together since 7th...

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When Kids Find Sex Toys at Home

Parents, did your kids find sex toys at home and you wish they wouldn't have? Mine have. The situation was almost as funny as this:   If you don’t feel like going to IKEA for storage solutions, you can check out the following items to store your toys (I do not get any kickbacks for sending you to these links): The Joyboxx, which looks like a toolbox https://joyboxx.com The Mini Moi Case or The Moi Box Deluxe. These look like a toiletry kit and a...

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I Want More Than Steak and Blow Job Day

It's been a month since Valentine's Day, and March 14th has many different celebrations. Us math geeks recognize it as Pi Day (3.14) and others celebrate Pie Day (for baked goods lovers). Aside from those, though, the common theme on my Facebook feed for the day has been to talk about "Steak & Blow Job Day." Personally, my reaction to "Steak & Blow Job Day" is: I'll call it that when Valentine's Day is "Chocolate & Cunnilingus Day." I dislike...

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Creepy Guys (And What Do We Do About Them?)

One time, I was out dancing at a local club with my partner. He left my side to go help a friend at the entrance and a few minutes after he left, I had a guy bump into me. At first I thought it was a mistake, but my non-reaction must have encouraged this guy to try again. The guy came up behind me on my right side and rubbed his body up against me while dancing. My usual...

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Best Timing, Wurst Joke

Last weekend at brunch, the four of us were out to our favorite little coffee shop. We are regulars at this spot such that they know and confirm our orders as we sit down. While we waited for a table this time though, there was a cute older couple nibbling on a side order of sausage links. My mouth watered. Having lived in Germany for some years, my daughters and I have a taste for Nürnberger rostbratwürstchen (similar in looks to...

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