When Kids Find Sex Toys at Home

Parents, did your kids find sex toys at home and you wish they wouldn't have? Mine have. The situation was almost as funny as this:   If you don’t feel like going to IKEA for storage solutions, you can check out the following items to store your toys (I do not get any kickbacks for sending you to these links): The Joyboxx, which looks like a toolbox https://joyboxx.com The Mini Moi Case or The Moi Box Deluxe. These look like a toiletry kit and a...

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I Want More Than Steak and Blow Job Day

It's been a month since Valentine's Day, and March 14th has many different celebrations. Us math geeks recognize it as Pi Day (3.14) and others celebrate Pie Day (for baked goods lovers). Aside from those, though, the common theme on my Facebook feed for the day has been to talk about "Steak & Blow Job Day." Personally, my reaction to "Steak & Blow Job Day" is: I'll call it that when Valentine's Day is "Chocolate & Cunnilingus Day." I dislike...

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Creepy Guys (And What Do We Do About Them?)

One time, I was out dancing at a local club with my partner. He left my side to go help a friend at the entrance and a few minutes after he left, I had a guy bump into me. At first I thought it was a mistake, but my non-reaction must have encouraged this guy to try again. The guy came up behind me on my right side and rubbed his body up against me while dancing. My usual...

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Best Timing, Wurst Joke

Last weekend at brunch, the four of us were out to our favorite little coffee shop. We are regulars at this spot such that they know and confirm our orders as we sit down. While we waited for a table this time though, there was a cute older couple nibbling on a side order of sausage links. My mouth watered. Having lived in Germany for some years, my daughters and I have a taste for Nürnberger rostbratwürstchen (similar in looks to...

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Dommes & Sub Sandwiches

Happened yesterday in my house:   Dinner time. The girls and I were in the kitchen in a flurry of activity making sandwiches and soup for this cold and rainy day in Northern California. I sliced a couple fresh slices off a new loaf of bread for my partner and called into the living room for him that his bread was ready. When he came into the kitchen, he asked, "where's my sandwich" in a sort of business-like way, presuming I made...

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I’m Going Rogue This Valentine’s Day. Here’s What I’m Doing Instead.

How many of you look forward to Valentine’s Day? How many of you think it totally sucks? Valentine's Day is hard for a lot of unpartnered people - that is single, divorced, widowed, for example. This day is typically focused on couples. You've got "2 for 1 specials", romance, and lame "sexy movie" releases to build excitement (*AHEM, I'm looking at you Fifty Shades Darker), and it doesn't actually work for people who are unpartnered. Sometimes, this holiday leads people to feel a...

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Part 2: Learning About Consent – The Real Life Application

In Part 1, I shared the one experience of going through the first days of a 5-day consent workshop and how it felt to my limbic system and threw me back to the days of being a mother of newborns. Brutal! So now: Part 2 - A Real Life Application of What We Learned On the evening of night three, I was not quite as physically and emotionally drained as I was in the first two days, so when my partner and...

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Part 1: Learning about Consent – A Graduate Course

What do you know about "consent"? I mean, really know. It comes up in a lot of conversations about sex - getting it, giving it, consequences of moving forward without it - but how do you give someone the EXPERIENCE of experiencing consent first hand? Making conscious choices about <what we do and when and with whom and how> are all part of this. There has been much written about this topic. College campuses have tried to step up and...

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