Do’s & Don’ts Of Consent For Kids: Part 4

(Continuing from Parts one, two, and three) In summary of the points in the previous parts, I have some suggestions for how to proceed. Check it out. DO Think about what comes up for you when consider this topic. Will YOU be embarrassed? Do YOU think it’s rude? Why? Were YOU forced to do this when you were little? How you feel is likely different than how your child feels because you are different people with different experiences. Recognize this isn’t...

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Even Santa Needs to Get Consent: Part 3

(Continued from Part 2) I get it. This is “new.” No one raised these issues when we were kids. But, just because it wasn't brought up as a problem back then, does that mean it wasn't a problem? I will take a controversial stance and say one should never force their child to sit on Santa’s lap neither. Why? Think about the lessons we give to our kids about "Stranger Danger"? How is it suddenly okay to talk to and sit...

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What Does Allowing Kids To Refuse Hugs Have To Do With Consent? Part 2

(Continued from Part 1) For years now, I have gotten push back on my position that children should not be forced to hug relatives. The response once came to me: Shouldn't children be encouraged to move beyond their "comfort zone?” I think if a parent says go ahead and hug Aunt Carol, that's teaching a child to be forthcoming and affectionate, and to appreciate those close to them. It's part of good manners, in a way. If I am seeing this...

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The Girls Scouts Are Right: It’s Never Too Early To Reenforce Good Consent Practice (part 1)

I started to write in support of an article written by the Girl Scouts, but as I talked about it with others, I realized some people were confused about why you should let kids choose to hug grandma or other relatives. Why is it important to allow children a choice about showing affection with family over the holidays? How does this affect future relationships? Trying to answer these questions takes time and is more than I can cover in...

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Satisfyer – I Tried A New Toy And It Sucks

WOW. Wow. I’m impressed. I finally got a chance to break out the new toy and the @satisfyerpro2 definitely sucks. ;) God Bless German Engineering. #sextoys #review #sexologistlife #newtoy #satisfyer #satisfyerpro2 #sexualhealth #gobielefeld #deutschland That was the post that went with the Instagram pic after I got a chance to try out a new toy. I say "toy, " but I feel calling it is too minimizing; this is indeed a sexual health device. The Satisfyer Pro 2 Next Generation is the first clitoral stimulation vibrator that...

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Adolescent Body Hair Police?

Where we live in California has great weather. But this Spring, a new concern surfaced for my 7th grader. My youngest daughter isn't a big fan of shorts; she has a lot of hair on her legs. Cindy told me she was feeling a little nervous because she doesn't want to start shaving her legs but she was concerned about what to do or say if she wore shorts and the Adolescent Body Hair Police did comment on the...

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United State(s) of Masturbation Survey – @TENGA

On Friday, September 22, the good folks at TENGA released the results from their 2nd annual United States(s) of Masturbation survey following their #DoItInMay Masturbation Month promotion. There were some fantastic results, for example, people who masturbate 4x/week experience 4 benefits: They go to the doctor less due to illness and injury they have higher body confidence are more likely to be employed and have 3x more orgasms. It all sounds like pretty good justification to me. Also, the survey got...

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The Trouble with Porn: It’s Not What You Think

Porn (aka adult film) manages to be one topic of human sexual behavior that gets people worked up - and not always in the "sexy" way. The topic even splits the experts into factions. To top it all off, some people think porn will unequivocally hurt your sexuality; I’m not one of those people. There is a LOT of porn out there, and I'll admit, not all of it is quality porn. In my opinion, our American culture doesn't have the...

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