Adolescent Body Hair Police?

Where we live in California has great weather. But this Spring, a new concern surfaced for my 7th grader. My youngest daughter isn't a big fan of shorts; she has a lot of hair on her legs. Cindy told me she was feeling a little nervous because she doesn't want to start shaving her legs but she was concerned about what to do or say if she wore shorts and the Adolescent Body Hair Police did comment on the...

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United State(s) of Masturbation Survey – @TENGA

On Friday, September 22, the good folks at TENGA released the results from their 2nd annual United States(s) of Masturbation survey following their #DoItInMay Masturbation Month promotion. There were some fantastic results, for example, people who masturbate 4x/week experience 4 benefits: They go to the doctor less due to illness and injury they have higher body confidence are more likely to be employed and have 3x more orgasms. It all sounds like pretty good justification to me. Also, the survey got...

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The Trouble with Porn: It’s Not What You Think

Porn (aka adult film) manages to be one topic of human sexual behavior that gets people worked up - and not always in the "sexy" way. The topic even splits the experts into factions. To top it all off, some people think porn will unequivocally hurt your sexuality; I’m not one of those people. There is a LOT of porn out there, and I'll admit, not all of it is quality porn. In my opinion, our American culture doesn't have the...

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Guest Post: Iroha by Tenga- Yoru

Iroha by Tenga- Yoru Review by Niseema Emery of Sensual Soul Sex & Relationship Coaching The first time I heard of Tenga was around the time they were just breaking into the market with their masturbators designed for people with penises (Tenga Eggs and Tenga Flip). I found out (Through a giveaway post on Dr. Lanae's Facebook page) that Tenga had created the Iroha line for people with pussies, and since I am a person with a pussy, I was really curious. There...

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Why do we have a Masturbation Month?

If you have been following my Instagram this month, then you have probably noticed an increase in posts relating to masturbation. Why do I do this? Because during the month of May every year Sexual Health Educators celebrate Masturbation Month. I've written about masturbation a few times in the past, here and here, and recently here. So, why do we do this? Quite simply, to educate. Masturbation can be talked about, and people should learn that it is a common and natural behavior,...

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The Sexual Education Gospel According to Me

I spend a lot of time thinking, talking, and working with people about sex and sexuality. There are other people who do this work as well and the internet has many different voices. Lately, I feel a need to share more about my approach or philosophy so people can decide for themselves - Why should you listen to me? I've written my Sexual Education Manifesto. So, why should you listen to me? Because I started out like a lot of you. I only got...

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Realizing Worth as a Teen: Living, Learning, and Leaving

When you were young, did you have a defining moment that helped you realize your worth? What about a moment where you realized you didn't have to tolerate someone treating you poorly? If not when you were young, how old were you? I've meant to write about a situation that happened to my daughter in middle school that has shaped how she sees her value. It's a situation that probably happens daily to kids and having a support system seems to...

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A Proper Response When Someone Asks You To Dance In Middle School

How many parents talk to their kids about how to ask someone to dance? What about a discussion about how to reply when they do get asked? Parents are not given an instruction manual when a baby is born, and that sucks sometimes. Once a kid reaches puberty, I think this topic needs discussion. Spring is here where we live, and the middle school spring dances happened. I helped to chaperone the 7th-grade dance, and I felt like an anthropologist watching a...

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