Creepy Guys (And What Do We Do About Them?)

One time, I was out dancing at a local club with my partner. He left my side to go help a friend at the entrance and a few minutes after he left, I had a guy bump into me. At first I thought it was a mistake, but my non-reaction must have encouraged this guy to try again. The guy came up behind me on my right side and rubbed his body up against me while dancing. My usual...

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This Could Be The Reason You’re Not Living Out Your True Sexual Fantasies

This article originally appeared on Elite Daily.   Ever had a dream where you woke up suddenly thinking, “What was that?!” I have. In my dream, I was presenting to a group of women where we were discussing how to enhance your sexual pleasure. One woman asked me what the key was to my definition of the best sex yet. My response was one that woke me up from the dream. I replied that the best sex I have had in my life —...

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Dealing With The First Crush

Back when my oldest daughter, Marcia, was 10-years-old, I heard there was a 10-year-old boy who liked her - and whom she liked back. It sounded like it had been building for a few weeks. It was an everyday dinner at our house except for the fact that Marcia's friend Kelly was having dinner with us too. We discussed school, friends, and classroom dramas. Marcia told me Danny (a boy in her grade) liked her. Kelly added, almost accusingly, that...

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Twitter Chat about Sex

On February 11, 2016, I had the pleasure of being part of a Twitter Chat about Sex sponsored by @Sheknows, a division of Blogher. Joining me were Married at First Sight sexpert Logan Levkoff (@loganlevkoff) & OBGYN Dr. Kate Killoran (@drkateMD) as #SKExperts. You can read the entire thread here: http://bit.ly/1TeZWJM I'm listing the questions posed to me and my answers here (modified for clarity). The questions were tough to explain briefly. I'll give a bit more information since I was only...

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Valentine’s Day & A Practice of Kindness

The Valentine’s Day season is a challenging period. It's typically focused on couples, 2 for one specials, romance, and sex - and it doesn't work for a lot of people who are single, divorced, widowed, or otherwise (involuntarily?) unpartnered. It leads to a lot of shame, guilt, sadness, and feelings of unworthiness. I may be more sensitive to this holiday because I think back to my years as a single woman post-divorce and how I felt. I know it’s...

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Taking The “STI” Out Of Stigma

I have a syphilis stuffed toy. I got it from a sexuality conference I went to a couple of years ago. It's from giantmicrobes.com, and it's adorable. Recently, my 13-year-old daughter started a sexuality education unit in her 8th-grade science class. On the day when they covered sexually transmitted infections (STI's), she asked me if she could take it to class; I consented. The science teacher loved it and wanted to keep it there (note: next gift idea for the...

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My Favorite Things – Holiday Gift Giving Edition

When I first started out as a sexuality educator the kind folks at the local SF adult shop Good Vibrations asked me about my favorite sex toys. I gave them a list of items and they posted it on their website alongside the favorite products of some amazing sex educators. Today I'm writing to update my list, so you have time to purchase those sexy Holiday gifts for your loved one(s). My recommendations for the following items, which were on the...

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Are You Becoming “The Other Woman” (or Male equivalent)

I'm always surprised by the mental gymnastics people do around finding a partner and the behavior they're willing to forgive in certain situations. I really shouldn't be by now because instances like this come up fairly often. I'm sure if a friend were to explain the same story to the people in these situations that their own advice would be similar to mine - yet so many people see their own situation as unique. Often it is not. What am...

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Thanksgiving and Assumed Gender Roles

Today is Thanksgiving in the USA - a day many Americans think about what and who they have in their lives for which they are thankful. Even though I don't do a full extended family event on this day, I do stop and take stock as well. This morning, a blog post scrolled past on my news feed. It was called, "The Surprising Reasons I am Thankful for my Divorce." Some of what the author wrote seemed to fit...

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Self-Censorship in Sex Ed?

  When my daughters were eight and ten years old, I tried to give them a lesson in old rock hits from when I was young—AC/DC, Journey, Van Halen, all the songs that were popular when I was their age. I never intended this to be a sex ed lesson, but as you've heard me say before, sex is everywhere—and sometimes it shows up when you least expect it especially when I called up a Pandora channel called AC/DC "TNT.”   If you’re...

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