Dealing With The First Crush

Back when my oldest daughter, Marcia, was 10-years-old, I heard there was a 10-year-old boy who liked her - and whom she liked back. It sounded like it had been building for a few weeks. It was an everyday dinner at our house except for the fact that Marcia's friend Kelly was having dinner with us too. We discussed school, friends, and classroom dramas. Marcia told me Danny (a boy in her grade) liked her. Kelly added, almost accusingly, that...

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Twitter Chat about Sex

On February 11, 2016, I had the pleasure of being part of a Twitter Chat about Sex sponsored by @Sheknows, a division of Blogher. Joining me were Married at First Sight sexpert Logan Levkoff (@loganlevkoff) & OBGYN Dr. Kate Killoran (@drkateMD) as #SKExperts. You can read the entire thread here: http://bit.ly/1TeZWJM I'm listing the questions posed to me and my answers here (modified for clarity). The questions were tough to explain briefly. I'll give a bit more information since I was only...

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Valentine’s Day & A Practice of Kindness

The Valentine’s Day season is a challenging period. It's typically focused on couples, 2 for one specials, romance, and sex - and it doesn't work for a lot of people who are single, divorced, widowed, or otherwise (involuntarily?) unpartnered. It leads to a lot of shame, guilt, sadness, and feelings of unworthiness. I may be more sensitive to this holiday because I think back to my years as a single woman post-divorce and how I felt. I know it’s...

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Taking The “STI” Out Of Stigma

I have a syphilis stuffed toy. I got it from a sexuality conference I went to a couple of years ago. It's from giantmicrobes.com, and it's adorable. Recently, my 13-year-old daughter started a sexuality education unit in her 8th-grade science class. On the day when they covered sexually transmitted infections (STI's), she asked me if she could take it to class; I consented. The science teacher loved it and wanted to keep it there (note: next gift idea for the...

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My Favorite Things – Holiday Gift Giving Edition

When I first started out as a sexuality educator the kind folks at the local SF adult shop Good Vibrations asked me about my favorite sex toys. I gave them a list of items and they posted it on their website alongside the favorite products of some amazing sex educators. Today I'm writing to update my list, so you have time to purchase those sexy Holiday gifts for your loved one(s). My recommendations for the following items, which were on the...

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Are You Becoming “The Other Woman” (or Male equivalent)

I'm always surprised by the mental gymnastics people do around finding a partner and the behavior they're willing to forgive in certain situations. I really shouldn't be by now because instances like this come up fairly often. I'm sure if a friend were to explain the same story to the people in these situations that their own advice would be similar to mine - yet so many people see their own situation as unique. Often it is not. What am...

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Thanksgiving and Assumed Gender Roles

Today is Thanksgiving in the USA - a day many Americans think about what and who they have in their lives for which they are thankful. Even though I don't do a full extended family event on this day, I do stop and take stock as well. This morning, a blog post scrolled past on my news feed. It was called, "The Surprising Reasons I am Thankful for my Divorce." Some of what the author wrote seemed to fit...

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Go With The Flow

I have written before about how our family will celebrate when my girls get their period. But what about the step that comes before they start? How do I talk to them about what menstruation is and how to be prepared for it?   My daughter was 7 years old at the time and would occasionally enter the bathroom without knocking. This time she came in while I was seated on the toilet during "that time of the month" and saw...

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Symbolism and Messaging in Disney’s “Frozen”

I finally got a chance to sit down and watch the Disney movie "Frozen" with my kids. I'll admit up front that I'm not a fan of Disney's Princess marketing juggernaut. In my eyes, the princess phenomenon is a bad message for both boys and girls. What’s wrong with telling girls they deserve to be rescued or spoiled? They think they should depend on others for fulfillment. What’s wrong with boys seeing the princesses in these movies? They begin to...

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My Favorite Kegel Exercisers, or…

… "Make your p*ssy tight like an a$$hole, then your hubby will stop pushing you for anal." There are a few products that rise to the surface of the sex toy heap. I have two favorites that I just HAD to share with you because of my love for them - The FLEX and the LUNA. The LUNA Smart Bead by LELO is truly the Personal Trainer for your Pussy. …alright, Vagina. Seriously, this little item is like the most fun I have...

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